Department of Health

Changes to donor-conceived laws: Roger's story

  • 18 February 2016
  • Duration: 1:52
  • My first reaction to the legislation that was introduced was one of... I was very positive about it. I thought this is a very good move.

    I have five offspring, I have three boys and two girls. And in recent years, I’ve met two of them.

    When you first have contact with your offspring you, you take it very tentatively. And in my experience, the contact with the young man that I met six of seven years ago was founded and based on mutual curiosity.

    He could never understand why he was hopeless at maths. I’ve never been very good, I’m more interested in the Arts and artistic things and I was hopeless at maths at school. And when he found out about that he just rejoiced. He said that explains it! He said I’ve been never been good at maths,  and your no good at maths and now I know why.

    I mean if I was talking to a donor now who was very concerned about this and wanted to latch on to that anonymity, now might be a time to perhaps relax your feeling about anonymity and think about the feelings of the offspring. Because that can have a very powerful and a very positive effect on that young person.  It can change their lives, it can change their attitude about who they are.

    And so, this is a gift that was a good idea then, it’s a good idea now.

Listen to Roger Clarke's story - Victoria will become the first state to give donor-conceived people the right to access information about where they came from.

Reviewed 18 February 2016

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